End the Chores wars

excerpt from : http://www.babycenter.com/0_big-story-ending-the-chore-wars-how-to-get-your-mate-to-help_1425647.bc?articleId=1425647&page=2#articlesection0


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Men who do dishes do better in the bedroom. If only men knew what they were missing: Men who do more housework have better sex lives and happier marriages. Men who do housework frequently have kids who do better socially and academically.


Nine ways to get your partner to do his fair share

-- Talk to him - "The average guy feels like if it ain't broke, don't fix it,"

-- Teach a man to fish and he'll eat for a lifetime - "While some men feign incompetence, some genuinely have never learned how to do housework,"

-- Don't be a control freak! - A little restraint and a heaping of praise can go a long way in his wanting to be involved and useful.

-- Choose chores he'll want to do. - While it may seem unfair that he gets to choose jobs he wants to do, consider that it's better than the alternative — doing everything yourself!

-- Do a little at a time. - Splitting chores between you and your spouse over several days will keep weekends from turning into nonstop drudgery.

-- Appeal to his charitable side. -- Ask him to oversee a "giveaway box" to which he and the kids can contribute.

-- Outsource! -- If you can, make some cuts in your budget, and use the money to hire cleaning help.

-- And if he still doesn't pitch in... -- tough-love should be your last resort, but it can be surprisingly effective.

-- Take time to reconnect. - "It would ease tension if couples took the time to reconnect on a regular basis." So at least once a month, do the things you used to enjoy together before you had children (and a messy house).